Secrets Of Life To Help You Navigate Through Life

Hi good people. Earlier this week, I had a heart-to-heart talk with my 20-year-old daughter. She was unhappy with the way her life has been playing out in the recent past. As I listened to her empathetically, I got a chance to tell her a few secrets about life that would help her navigate through it.

Some of the things my daughter complained about included losing her iPhone several months ago. She had saved for months to buy the phone. We also chipped in to give her the phone of her dreams. She wondered why her phone got lost two weeks after purchasing it.

She cried, saying she was frustrated with the phone she is using now (a hand-me-down from her dad). The phone malfunctions and she thus needs a lot of grace to use it. My heart went out to her. I plan to buy her a phone soon (not an iPhone).

She also wondered why she had not seen an email she had been sent by a certain company inviting her for an interview for an attachment. The email was sent to her but she saw it two weeks after it was sent.

She felt like if she’d done the interview, she’d have gotten the attachment. She has thus had to spend her 4 months of college break at home.

She was seeking answers from me for her predicaments. I told her I didn’t have all the answers to life. I told her that one of the secrets of life is that it’s full of mysteries.

You see, many times we don’t know why something happens. We also don’t know what’s going to happen next. The reason is simply because life is full of mysteries.

I encouraged her to accept that we can’t comprehend some things about life. That would help her find peace with the challenges and uncertainties of life.

After speaking to my daughter, I got the inspiration to write about the secrets of life. Secrets to help you navigate through life.

Secrets Of Life To Help You Navigate Through Life

Let me delve into 20 secrets about life without further ado.

Life Is Short – Don’t Waste Time

One secret of life is that life is short. Days, months, and years move very fast. You are here today and gone tomorrow.

You see, time is non-renewable. In other words, you can’t recover lost time.

So, don’t waste your time here on earth. You don’t want to have regrets, do you?

Chase your adventures and dreams today. Embrace opportunities today. Focus on what truly matters – the things that enhance your quality of life. Make your life worth living.

True Happiness Comes From Within You

Another secret of life is that true happiness comes from within you. It does not rely on your possessions or external circumstances. In other words, it’s internal.  

So, avoid looking up to your possessions such as money, cars, or houses to make you happy.

Also, avoid looking up to someone e.g. your partner, children, or your parents to make you happy.

Instead, cultivate gratitude, mindfulness, meaningful relationships, self-awareness, self-love, self-acceptance, and a positive mindset. This is the route to true happiness.

Life Will Surprise You – Brace Yourself

Oh yes, another secret of life is that it’s full of surprises. This means that life has unexpected outcomes and events, some positive and others negative.

No matter how much you predict, visualize, or carefully plan your life, there will always be unforeseen and surprising circumstances that change your life’s course.

The surprises could be pleasant such as new experiences or awesome opportunities you hadn’t anticipated.

The surprises could also be challenges or unexpected, negative events.

So, try to brace yourself for the pleasant or unpleasant surprises life may throw in your way.

Also, try to keep an open mind when life surprises happen.

When you do so, negative life surprises become less stressful. In addition, the pleasant life surprises become more exciting.

Money Does Not Change You, It Reveals Your True Colors

Have you ever met someone who suddenly changed after acquiring money? For instance, someone who acquired money and became arrogant, proud, womanizer, drunkard, spendthrift,  etc.

Or someone who acquired money and became philanthropic, humble, frugal, etc.

A great secret of life is that money does not change you. It instead reveals your true colors.

The person who acquires money and becomes arrogant, proud, a womanizer, drunkard, spendthrift, etc, does not become this way because of the money they have acquired. They had these traits in them even before they acquired money.

Lack of money had suppressed these personality traits. When the person acquired money, their true colors came out.

The person who acquires money and becomes philanthropic, humble, frugal, etc, does not become this because of the money they have acquired. They had these personality traits deep down before acquiring money. The money brought out who they really are.

No One Is Perfect – Avoid Expecting Too Much From Yourself and From Others

All human beings have limitations, make mistakes, and have flaws. So, no one is perfect.

This is one of the greatest secrets of life. No human being can achieve perfection.

Once you understand that no one is perfect, you’ll try to embrace your imperfections and other people’s imperfections.

You’ll thus not expect too much from yourself or from others.

As a result, you’ll have realistic expectations from yourself and others.

When you realize that no one is perfect, you’ll be on your way to developing healthier relationships, self-acceptance, and reducing stress.

No Human is Limited

The other secret of life is that no human is limited. This means that every human being has limitless potential for achievement and growth.

You can thus achieve extraordinary things, break barriers, and overcome obstacles. You can do this by embracing a growth mindset, hard work, determination, a positive outlook, and resilience.

So, avoid those self-imposed limits and barriers. Anything is possible – you can achieve extraordinary things if you believe in yourself. Go for it!

Your Health is Wealth; Take Care Of It

I believe that maintaining good mental and physical health is one of the secrets of life. Good health is wealth. It’s more valuable than material wealth.

Good health is the foundation of a happy and fulfilling life.

Suppose you have all the money in the world but are in poor health. In that case, you’ll not enjoy your wealth.

When you take care of your health, you improve your quality of life and your chances of achieving your professional and personal goals.

So, your physical health and mental health are wealth. Take care of both.

Rest is Not Idleness; It’s An Investment For Your Future Well-being

As I’ve mentioned above, your health is wealth, take care of it. This leads me to another secret of life. Rest is not idleness, it’s an investment for your future.

I cannot overemphasize the importance of rest to your overall health and well-being.

In fact, you should incorporate rest into your daily routine.

For instance, you can rest by doing yoga or meditation. You could also take a nap or sit down and read a good book.

You see, when you rest, you get rejuvenated and recharged thus boosting your energy levels and performance. Also, your anxiety and stress are reduced, and your mood improves.

So, don’t feel guilty when you take time to rest. You’re not being idle or wasting time when resting. You are investing in your future well-being.

Sleep is the Best Medicine

Another awesome secret of life is that sleep is the best medicine. I’m not talking about a nap here but quality sleep. According to experts, an adult should get approximately 7 to 9 hours every night.

Sleep is the best medicine because it enables your body and mind to rest and thus recover from the day’s work and stressors. As a result, it helps to restore your physical and mental health.

I urge you to prioritize quality sleep in your daily life. You’ll enjoy a healthy and fulfilling life.

Laughter Is A Strong Medicine

Apart from rest and sleep, the other secret of life you should know about is that laughter is a strong medicine.

A good laugh works wonders in your body.

For instance, laughter hugely boosts your mood. Laughter also lightens your burdens, thus reducing stress.

So, laughter has so much power to renew and heal you.

I urge you to laugh more as laughter is a strong medicine.

Money Cannot Buy Happiness

Another secret of life is that money cannot buy happiness. I know some people have a contrary view.

I know that money is essential in everyone’s life. After all, money makes the world go round. Oh, and who wouldn’t want to have all the money they want?

Do you feel like having all the money you want can buy happiness?

Well, there are things in this world you can’t buy, and happiness is one of them.

You see, true happiness is more than affording to buy whatever you want.

The reason money cannot buy happiness is that happiness comes from within. As I mentioned earlier, happiness does not come from what you possess or all the money you have. True happiness is internal.

Have you seen people with all the money they want but are miserable? I have.

They could be unhappy because of sickness, broken relationships, or wayward children. They could also be miserable due to loneliness, external pressure, lack of peace, death of a loved one, etc. These are issues that money cannot solve.

I’m a firm believer that money cannot buy happiness. You can only derive true happiness from things beyond money.

These things include peace of mind, meaningful relationships, love, simple pleasures, and acts of kindness, among other things. If you have these things plus money, it will be an added advantage.

Nobody Owes You Anything

One of the greatest secrets of life you should know is that nobody owes you anything. When you know and embrace this secret, you’ll feel liberated.

For example, are you a parent who feels like your children owe you something for bringing them into this world, raising and educating them?

Or did you get someone a job and feel like they owe you something?

Or did you help someone in whatever way and you feel like they owe you something?

The sad news is that nobody owes you anything.

So, avoid that feeling of entitlement and get on with your life in the best way you can.

Always strive to be self-reliant so that you don’t have to hope that other people will solve your problems, solve your issues, or give you handouts.

You Are Never Too Old To Set Another Goal Or Have New Dreams

I recently came across a clip that inspired me greatly. It was of an old lady. She said, “I’m 102 years old, and I have a 10-year plan”.

That’s another secret of life you should know about. You are never too old to set another goal or have new dreams.

Oh, yes, you can set new goals and new dreams regardless of your age.

Here are some people who achieved great things at an advanced age:

Jonathan Mendes: He is one of the oldest unofficial finishers of the New York City Marathon. He finished his latest marathon at the age of 96. When he finished the race, he lay down and requested a Scotch.

Colonel Harland Sanders: Started Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC) at the age of 65. The restaurant chain grew to 600 franchises within 9 years.

Yuichiro Miura: At 80 years old, he became the oldest person to reach the top of Mt. Everest. He says he’ll try again at 90 years.

Smoky Dawson: This Australian cowboy released a new album at 92 years old. He was the oldest person to do so in the country.

So, your age should not limit your dreams or plans. Dream and plan big, as long as you’re alive. You will have a rich and fulfilling life.

Your Failures Should Be Lessons

Another secret of life is that your failures should be lessons. This means that whenever you fail or make a mistake in life, you should not beat yourself up or quit.

Instead, your failures/mistakes should be an opportunity to reflect and re-examine yourself.

When you reflect and re-examine yourself, you can begin to understand why you failed and what you can do differently in the future.

So, have you lost your job or has your business failed?

Is your marriage failing or has it already failed?

Has your weight loss/weight gain program failed?

Instead of giving up, look at your failures/mistakes as lessons.

Sit back, reflect, re-examine yourself, re-strategize, and start all over again.

Try, try again until you succeed.

Nothing Lasts Forever

Another great secret of life is that nothing lasts forever. In other words, everything in your life will change over time.

This life secret is sobering and comforting.

It’s sobering to know that everything in life is temporary. This may include the good relationships you may be having, your financial success, the good health you have, etc.

So, appreciate what you have and make the most use of it right now. It could come to an end eventually.

Also, it’s comforting to know that nothing lasts forever. Take heart! Whatever problems you’re facing today are temporary. They will one day come to an end.

Hang in there because nothing lasts forever.

You Are Not Alone

This post about the secrets of life would not be complete without this secret.

You are not alone! I urge you to always remember this as you navigate through life.

For instance, when you want someone to talk to, call someone, invite them to your place, or arrange to meet them. The person could be a friend, relative, neighbor, colleague, etc.

You’ll be surprised to know that some people are ready to listen to you if only you reach out.

Also, reach out when you need any kind of help. You’re not alone. Some people are willing to help you as long as you are vulnerable (share your problem).

Oh, and if you’re thinking you don’t have any of the people I have mentioned above, remember that you have your God (whoever you perceive Him to be). Call out to your God. Talk to Him. You’re not alone.

Conclusion

I hope these secrets of life will renew the way you live and the way you look at life. I hope they will transform your life somehow. Cheers!

Which other life secrets can you share with us? Kindly comment below.

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